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Mindset Monday November 22, 2021

Hi Team,

This Monday, I am starting the week thinking about the Thanksgiving holiday. Several things come to mind for me.

First, my main focus is on the food. We have already been shopping to collect nearly all of the ingredients for a proper feast. I do like to make a great feast. I have an enjoyable recipe for keto stuffing and a funky Shepards pie that I continue to evolve. I love preparing the food and making excellent meals.

Second, I’m thinking about how grateful I am for all of the incredible blessings in my life. With my wife, kids, family, friends, colleagues, and all of the opportunities ahead of me, the universe is truly abundant. I am excited to continue learning and growing on this journey.

Third, I’ve got a busy week ahead in my personal life. The week-long retreat was fantastic, but getting back into the regular flow was a sprint to catch back up. We take on a lot of activities as a family, and we continuously work on managing our health and well-being. We know that we can’t be our best for ourselves and others if we don’t take of ourselves.

Fourth, my professional life does not take a break. I am in the process of building multiple lines of business, and my day job demands high performance.

All of this has me thinking more about time. Time is a resource we have not figured out how to get back. We have to protect our time fiercely because it is the most limited resource we possess. We want to use our time wisely, and we seek to know our value and increase it.

This week, I want to use my time mindfully. I want to be mindful of the value my time adds. It’s my time, and I may be using it in the service of others, but it is always for me. I am my best when I spend my time in balanced ways, filling all of the cups a little at a time. I feel out of sync when some cups are too full, and others are not full enough.

As you go through the week, consider where your time goes; how are you spending it? Are you using it mindfully? Do you value where your time is going? When you choose to spend time in one way over another, why do you spend it that way?

Happy Monday!

Stay Safe Out There,

Change The Relationship

It’s Already Working

The tactic of getting time away from daily life in a beautiful relaxing place to gain focus and clarity has already begun paying dividends.

Let me back up because I know I haven’t shared a lot yet.

I have had a dream of building a company for a long time. I waffled about it for a long time, and eventually, I did start a business. Branch Water Entertainment was born. It has served a great purpose for me mentally, but it has not moved past the small side hustle stage. I have a long-term plan, but I will need substantial help to make it real.

This retreat is about the first stage of that help. I have been looking for the ideal way to bring my partner in life, Sarah, into this. This retreat allows us to collaborate on the next steps of this plan. We are figuring out the way our skills fit and where we go next.

First, we have noticed what we want by brainstorming and capturing as many ideas as possible on various themes. Then we identified what we wanted to do first out of all these ideas and things to do. Third, we set about doing the three key first things we identified. Finally, we celebrated doing and completing these first steps.

The concept is out there in so many ways, but sometimes it’s tough to implement it.

When we notice something, we begin to want it. Once we have or do it and like it, we will want to have or do more of it. This loop can be healthy or unhealthy. You can call it a habit, you can call it a ritual, you can call it a process, you can call it a program, but in the end, it’s us.

If we can hack this loop and make it work for us, then we can enact the process of becoming the person we want to be. It sounds simple, and it is. I think this is easy to understand. But just because it is easy to understand does not make it easy to do.

Notice – Want – Do – Like

I like the phrasing of these as the loop elements because noticing is a helpful word when we think about the initiation of the loop. You can use this idea of notice to identify when you end up going down a path you don’t like and the why. The key is that this isn’t an external why because it has to do with our reaction to the noticed thing.

Our reaction to the noticing is encapsulated in the idea of “wanting.” First, we notice, and then we want. The wanting isn’t the action, but it precedes action. If we do not wish to, we will not act. The wanting comes from the noticing, but the wanting manifests our internal reaction to the noticing. The nature of the wanting and relationship to noticing has everything to do with your mindset. It has frequently been said, ‘We can not control what’s happening, only our reaction to it.’

Wanting inevitably leads to doing, and the nature of the doing is related to our mindset. So there could easily be a loop within a loop that creates a negative trigger between wanting something good but then doing something terrible. Self-sabotage is a real thing that many folks struggle with, and here we find a crucial element of teasing apart the loop so we can do some maintenance. Here, we can’t control everything that comes into our view, and we can’t control how that makes us feel, but we can always control what we do.

Once the doing is done, we must classify the experience as did like or did not like. Maybe there were parts of it we did not like, but it comes down to the reward we got. Our brains want to do more of the things we tell them we like, and our brain thinks we like the things we focus the most on. So the things we notice regularly, the wants those noticings well up inside us, the actions we do about those wantings, and how well we like the actions we do.

Stay Safe Out There,


Retreat and Regroup

This week we are having a retreat to plan the next evolution of Branch Water and prepare for 2022. When you’re in the day-to-day melee of life, it’s often easy to just get into problem-solving mode. While there are goals, objectives, strategies, workflows, procedures, and all sorts of other tools available to help us continue in the desired direction, it is critical to take an objective look at where we are and what we want to do next.

We’ll use the outputs of this time to refocus the tools and ensure we’re still going in the direction that we want to be heading.

We’re excited about this year’s retreat because we’ve got a big plan to get through. We have had a really great year of growth that has opened up a lot of possibilities. We have several strong streams to work with, and we need to spend time focused on planning. Our goal is to enable a tremendous coordinated effort.

Our execution will continue to evolve and improve over time. We will continue to learn as we go. I know there will be times when I feel like I’ve botched something, but I’ll learn from it and do better.

This week we’re away from the office, away from the kids, away from all other commitments. This week, we’re regrouping in a location that lets us relax and unwind. Only through unwinding are we going to be able to really get a good the desired perspective.

We love being with everyone, and taking this time away to reset alone lets us be there more fully for the rest of the time. One thing we’re looking at is making this a quarterly plan. It makes a lot of sense to me to make more frequent, more minor course corrections. It adds an additional layer of logistics, but if we are getting more value out of our time, it may be worth it.

I am pretty existential today. I had the pleasure of spending some time this morning listening to a segment of the Lex Fridman podcast and his conversation with Stephen Wolfram. I’ve only had time to listen to about 45 minutes so far, but this is a fantastic conversation.

I love decoupling things from other things, whether it’s weight loss from exercise, earning money from time, or in this case, intelligence and consciousness and Time from Action.

I really love thinking about how the separation of action and time at the elemental level of the universe presents the theoretical possibility of warp speed and a similar concept for a ship that could travel through time. Then the conversation pivots to computational equivalence and irreducibility, tricky sounding phrases. Still, they are part of breaking down highly complex systems into their elemental components, like Time and Action.

What would the world look like to the weather? That’s an interesting question that I’d love to explore, even from a silly perspective. The earnest question implies the reality of consciousness or intelligence. Does a thunderstorm have a particular feeling about itself as we do?

My mind is blown! I see the coming together of all these concepts where my world view is getting more and more confirmations from every direction.

There is always something new to learn and a way to grow. The more perspectives and ideas we can take in, the better prepared we can be for the chaotic dance of life.

I am excited to set out our plans for the next evolution and take those forward into the unknown.
Stay Safe Out There,

Change The Relationship Money

Making Money

I’ve been building my technical analysis skill set. I’ve been changing my relationship with money and making money. I’m decoupling the making of money from the spending of time. I’m decoupling creativity from money making.

I’ve been supremely impressed with Sarah Potter and her book How You Can Trade Like a Pro

The concepts for taking in data points and building the analysis are straight forward and helpful. These same ideas can be helpful in so many arenas, not just options or futures trading. I’m not planning to get into a ton of specifics here because the book is great at that.

My topic for today is to think about how helpful it is to decouple the idea of making money from both doing a job and spending finite amounts of time.

A similar concept has worked wonders for me in managing my weight and physical health. I decoupled exercise and weight. Once I was able to separate the two ideas, it gave me space to manage my weight without the excuse of no time for exercise.

In short, the idea gave me control over the outcome. Options trading has given me a similar control over outcome when it comes to making money. It’s given me the space to allow myself to be creative in other areas without feeling like I have to make money from my creativity.

The thing I like a lot about options trading is how the skillset really can be applied to so many of lives arenas. One good example of this is patience. I’ve heard it recently said that for traders, patience pays. It saves you money when you are patient and avoid getting into a bad position because the setup does not actually develop. It also pays when you get into the right position at the right time and patiently wait for the correct exit. Patience puts money in a traders pocket.

Patience also pays in many areas of life. When we push too hard, we often end up in over our head or out of position for all the good things that are coming our way. I know some folks don’t ascribe to the concept that the things they want are coming their way, but perhaps not in the time frame they expect.

As a rebel, I’m intimately familiar with the power and challenge of expectations. Not all rebels are as aware of the impact of expectation on themselves and others, but I am acutely aware. Expectations are like quicksand for me and they are for many others as well. When we expect things from existance and that expectation is time sensitive, it creates a lot of internal friction that manifests in negative outward behaviors. We often push away the things we want because of our reaction to these unmet expectations.

The patience of a trader can be a tremendous benefit when unmet expectations boil up. First, I seek to understand, what has transpired that the expectation is unmet and why was I expecting it in the first place. Second, I seek to recognize the opportunity and meaning behind the unmet expectation. Finally, I move forward patiently and continue to seek to be the person who does the things that the person I see myself as would do.

Stay Safe Out There!



Just Purpose

Today is definitely a new day. It’s not going to be the same going forward as it has been before. There is no need to dwell on past weakness as we will focus on future strength. The past remains for us to learn from, but only in so far as it serves our just purpose.

This is one of those magical days when everything seems possible and clear.

What is a just purpose? If anything it is a mashup. It’s an idea for rebels, it is an idea for me. It’s a blending of a grand purpose in the spirit of Loki and a just cause in pursuit of more ahead days within the infinite game.

A Just Purpose is the thing I feel compelled to do, my purpose, and the meaning I long to assign, that my purpose is applied justly. I am not interested in following some other persons cause, but I can be persuaded to aid another’s cause when I see that it is Just and my purpose aligns with the cause.

Today, I finally feel free from fear and ready to step into my Just Purpose.

‘Fear, today we are embarking on another journey;

Creativity, you and I. We have been on many journeys together.

You will come with us, I know you won’t allow yourself to be left behind.

You may have your voice, you may have a seat at the table.

You may not set our direction or make decisions.’

This is a paraphrasing of a wonderful idea Elizabeth Gilbert presents in her book Big Magic

Don’t be afraid to live in your purpose and don’t be afraid to live that purpose justly.

Stay Safe Out There!